Anita Coats Ames

April 15, 1935 ~ November 19, 2021 (age 86)


Anita Faustine (Coats) Ames, 86 of North Stonington, CT, died peacefully on Friday November 19, 2021 at Portland Care and Rehab Centre. She was the beloved wife of Charles A. Ames Sr., sadly he predeceased her on April 25, 2019.
Born in New London, CT on April 15, 1935, she was the daughter of the late Ansel Wheeler and Marjorie (Gray) Coats.

Anita graduated from Stonington High School in 1953 and went on to receive her Associates Degree from Katharine Gibbs in Providence, RI taking the train each day into Providence wearing her white gloves and hat. She was quickly employed by Electric Boat in Groton, CT leaving there to raise a family and run the household while her husband, Charles, was out to sea. Later she became employed by the Board of Education for the town of North Stonington, CT and worked there as the secretary to the Superintendent of Schools for over 20 yrs.
After retiring from the school system she worked for the Town Probate office and the Town Police.

Mrs. Ames was a life member of the North Stonington Congregational Church, where she had been an active and dedicated member throughout her life, playing piano for the youth Choir and sitting on various committees over the years.

Anita was also active in civic affairs in her beloved town of North Stonington and was a member of the North Stonington Grange since she was a young girl and had dedicated alot of time serving and supporting the grange.

She also sat on the Juvenile Board of Review, the Board of Education, and the North Stonington Education Foundation to name a few. She was recognized for her dedication to the youth of North Stonington with an Honorary Diploma during the 2015 Wheeler High School graduation.

Anita and her family enjoyed many summers at their camp on Ebeemee Lake, in Maine. She also enjoyed knitting and owned Anita’s Yarn Shop in North Stonington while her children were very young, selling yarn and teaching classes on the craft.
Even though Anita loved to serve, volunteer and work, she always had time for her family. She was a loving mother, grandmother and aunt.

She will be sadly missed by her three children, Charles Ames Jr., Kevin Ames and his wife Susan and Lisa Aarrestad and her husband Peter. She was the loving grandmother of Jordon, Corey, Kelsey (Matthew), Emma and Ansel (Holly) and great grandmother to Zoe, Theodore and Kehlani. She also leaves her sisters, Gayle (Dick) Williams, Marilyn (Kip) Taylor, Sheri (Ed) Nardi and a brother, Wayne (Linda) Coats and many nieces and nephews.

She was predeceased by her sisters and their spouses, Audrey (Bill) Gruber and Elizabeth (Jim) Bruce.

The Ames Family will greet relatives and friends on Sunday November 28th from 11:00 AM- 1:00PM at the Buckler-Johnston Funeral Home, 121 Main St. Westerly, RI.
The family kindly requests that masks be worn while inside.

A short service will follow at 2:00pm, at the Plains Cemetery in North Stonington, CT.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the North Stonington Education Foundation, 298 Norwich Westerly Rd, North Stonington, CT 06359 or the North Stonington Congregational Church Building Fund, 89 Main St. North Stonington, CT. 06359

We would like to thank the Chestelm Adult Day Services and the Portland Care and Rehab Centre for the love and care shown to Anita and our family over the last few years.

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November 28, 2021

11:00 AM to 1:00 PM
Buckler-Johnston Funeral Home
121 Main St.
Westerly, RI 02891

November 28, 2021

1:00 PM
Buckler-Johnston Funeral Home
121 Main St.
Westerly, RI 02891


Great Plains Cemetery

N. Stonington, CT 06379

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