The death of a loved one is a unique and intesnsely painful experience. It is important for all of us, when we experience this loss, to grieve. Grief is a healthy way of showing sorrow and accepting the loss as a reality.
Grief is an ever-changing process. Individuals who have had a loved one die may experience a number of emotions, all of which are part of the grieving process. It is important to remeber that our grief responses to loss vary from person to person and situation to situation. The duration and intensity of this porcess is unique to each indivdual.
Shock: Temporarily stunned, dazed. The human body cushions itself from the shock too great to accept all at once. It protects you from overwhelming pain.
Confusion: You may feel restless, yet too weary to move; mute, yet need to communicate; numb; yet overwhelmed; and you may want solitude, yet companionship.
Denial: Not accepting your loved one's death as realtiy.
Anger: An expression of frustration over the chages loss as brought. This may be directed towards God, the medical staff, or your loved one who has "deserted" you.
Doubt: About your ability, to adjust to the changes.
Depression: Loss, intensifies feelings of helplessness, hopelessness and powerlessness.
Guilt: Feelings that you somehow could have done more. Regrets about something you did, said, or failed to say or do.
Crying: Another natural, helpful response, particularly as the loss becomes real. Not everyone cries or chooses to do so in the presence of others.
Uncertainty: We no longer have the security provided by the one who died.
Loneliness: The longest-acting effect in the grieg process because a void has been created with this death.
Backsliding: Reoccurrence of feelings that bring one back to the pain of the situation, yet often at a less intense degree.